Expat Life in Dubai

How do you see yourself 5 years from now?

July 31, 2013

That’s probably the most overused interview question which requires such a very superficial answer to impress the interviewer who’s got nothing better to ask. However, if you take that question out of a job interview context and someone asks you randomly what would you answer?

I was talking to a friend of mine earlier over Yahoo Messenger (yeah, I’m not really crazy about Skype) and she asked me that question to which I just blankly stared at the screen and waited for some sort of spiritual intervention to make me realize what I want to be in 5 years. I realized then that I really have no idea what I will be in 5 years and that’s really not me because I’m a big planner. I’ve got an obsessive compulsive disorder to plan everything ahead of time. No matter how small or big the plan is, everything will be in order down to the smallest detail. I do believe that I am currently living here in Dubai because I basically planned everything since when I was a kid. (More on that later) However now, I haven’t planned anything for my future and somehow, I am fine with it. Should I be worried? Do all of you have some sort of a game plan in your life right now that you’re living by? Do you know where you will be in 5 years? Because I don’t.

Then tonight during dinner, the boyfriend asked me about Dumaguete which is a place in the Central part of the Philippines. There’s nothing wrong about asking me questions like that but the thing is, this is probably the 5th city in the Philippines he asked. He’s been mentioning even before that his plan is for us to move to the Philippines and he will put up a sports bar while I will get myself employed as a cashier in a grocery store (the last part is to tease me but maybe he’s also serious about it, I don’t know). I brushed it off several times as if to think that he’s just saying it now maybe because he’s bored and he’s got nothing better else to do but I found out that he is actually weighing the pros and cons already. He’s been researching about the cities in the Philippines, reading some articles or blogs of people who are currently living there and he practically already has an idea of where these cities are located in our map. The odd thing is, I’ve no idea if I will go back to the Philippines anytime soon. I mean yeah, maybe for vacation or maybe after 20 years (maybe!) but I can’t see myself living there right about now and I don’t also see myself still living in Dubai in 20 years. So basically, I’m screwed because I don’t even know where I will be in that span of time. I do admire the boyfriend for having a plan. He knows what he wants and he’s already planning to get it. I also love the fact that I’m part of that plan (tee hee). Maybe I can just live my life out of his plan?

Two people in one night making me realize that I’ve got no clue of what I’ll be doing in the future somehow made me panic. Am I living a life without purpose? Is it too late for me to make plans? Where do I even start? How do I even start planning? I’m not getting any younger, in fact I’m hitting the big 3-0 (I can’t write those numbers together, no not yet) in about 3 months and I’ve got no freaking clue what I want in my life (I do know what I want for my birthday though). This idea literally drove me nuts for some time. I have just lived out one of the plans that I’ve had for myself when I was younger and that is to be able to live a very independent life in which I no longer ask my parental units for financial aid whenever life throws me out of balance. I will have to admit that the first 2 years of my life here in Dubai, I was still very dependent to my parental units. If I get sick and needs to go to the hospital (which is quite often), my mother will have to send me money to pay for the bills. Yes, that’s how immature and useless I was that time. Now that I’ve finally managed to live independently which is a part of my longterm plans when I was in my teenage years, I’ll have to plan again? Can we just stop planning and just see where life brings us? Isn’t it better to live a life full of surprises? Good surprises that is. Am I going through what they call the quarter-life crisis? But I’m no longer in my quarter-life, does it mean I’m going through a mid-life crisis? Am I that old?? Dafuq????

I tried. Really, I did try to think about how I see myself 5 years from now but all I can see is this:

Girl-on-Beach-Hammock

Well who knows? Maybe that’s me in my own private island. :p

What about you? How do you see yourself 5 years from now? Do you have any plans for yourself? Please say no so that I won’t feel so bad. 🙁

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24 Comments

  • Reply Ralf August 9, 2017 at 15:30

    Hi can you pls tell some one if visa rejected two times and applied to German now.
    Is possibility their to get visa .

  • Reply Nomi December 5, 2014 at 23:16

    Hey guys nice blog and nice comments in next 5 years I’ll be on planet earth for sure 🙂 and if I’ll be healthy and traveling around planet earth it’s good enough P 🙂 that’s my plan 🙂

  • Reply pampa November 11, 2014 at 13:32

    i ve many plans to do ( confused ) but not sure wer i ll be after 5 years.,its almost one year still i m thinking which path to look nd follow., 🙁

  • Reply nicolewindle October 24, 2014 at 11:22

    I really enjoyed reading this! I’m 23 and having graduated from University this question seems to be a reoccurring question at many interviews! Your answer made me laugh because all I can see is myself lying on a luxurious beach somewhere too! Again I’ve learnt that focusing on the present and not AS much on the future will lead you to amazing opportunities and hopefully one day we’ll see each other lying on a beach faaaar way from the 9-5 surrounded by grey skies!

    • Reply Pinay Flying High October 24, 2014 at 12:05

      Crossing my fingers on that.
      By the way, try answering with “in 5 years, I see myself as your boss” see if that works. :p

  • Reply monicasicoe November 29, 2013 at 03:01

    that’s a great exercise

    • Reply Pinay Flying High November 29, 2013 at 12:44

      Maybe planning is not for everyone, I’d just live for the moment. 🙂 Thanks for dropping by.

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  • Reply Laurene August 1, 2013 at 18:16

    I have just survived 6 months here in Dubai and trying to start a new, independent life (which you have achieved by now and you’re just a few years older than me). I don’t even know if I like my job here and to think about the five years to come makes me want to just pack my bags, go home and… I don’t know. Is that even normal? Haha. So yeah, I don’t know where (or what) I will be 5 years from now either (or maybe even 10 – sh*t I’m screwed!). Maybe we should just drink to that? *cheers*

    • Reply Pinay Flying High August 1, 2013 at 19:54

      Hi Laurene,

      It’s normal I guess although I have not had that feeling since I arrived here in Dubai. I do know a lot of people who have gone through it (or are going through it), maybe it’s a phase? The secret? Try to enjoy it. Don’t lead a miserable life and just enjoy this city. Don’t make your life revolve only around work. 🙂

      It’s still too early for you to be worried about yourself in 5 years. Take it easy.

      Thanks for stopping by my blog. xxx

  • Reply vanessa August 1, 2013 at 12:15

    i don’t know where i will be in 5 yrs. time, but then i really don’t care, i am happy with what i have now, and i think I’ll take this moment to cherish what i have, maybe 5 years would be a success if i just let it figure itself.

    • Reply Pinay Flying High August 1, 2013 at 19:59

      Frankly, I was not even thinking about it until my friend made me realize about it. Hahaha. I am definitely having the time of my life and knowing that a lot of people are doing the same, I’ll just keep being happy and not worry about the future too much. 🙂

      Thanks for dropping by my blog. xxx

  • Reply sharon August 1, 2013 at 11:12

    just focus on the present and it will just lead you to your future…it’s what i’m doing – living my life to the fullest, remember, you only live once.

    • Reply Pinay Flying High August 1, 2013 at 20:02

      Yeah. Live your life one day at a time – that was my motto until my friend made me realize that I may be doing it wrong. Hahaha.

      Maybe life’s all about choices and I choose to be happy now.

      Thanks for stopping by my blog. xxx

  • Reply jane August 1, 2013 at 09:58

    no idea either

  • Reply Anna July 31, 2013 at 21:52

    I have no idea where I will be in 5 years time. 🙂

  • Reply Dolce Diana July 31, 2013 at 18:20

    Cheers to us and mid life crisis :p xo how r uuuu apart from the 5 year question hovering u? I’ve not been blogging,,,this Instagram is making me lazy to 😀

    • Reply Pinay Flying High July 31, 2013 at 22:11

      Yeah, I noticed you’ve been silent lately. Instagram? I’m over that, I am now wasting most of my time on Pinterest. LOL.

      Are you in Dubai right now?

      • Reply Dolce Diana August 2, 2013 at 15:34

        Trueeee 🙂 I’m in Beirut enjoying summer!!!hihi

  • Reply Matthew Curry July 31, 2013 at 10:05

    I know how you feel. I’m 33 myself and I have those moments where I think, “What am I doing with my life? Where is this going?” I know I want to be an author, but that’s about it. I would also like to get out of this backwards little town and go someplace better.

    • Reply Pinay Flying High July 31, 2013 at 22:39

      I am just so very happy that a lot of people are going through the same phase. I don’t feel so alone anymore and the panic I felt somehow subsided. Anyhow, I do believe that in due time we’ll be able to realize what we really want. Until then, let’s just go with the flow. :p

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