A few weeks ago, me and the boyfriend were having a very intimate and serious conversation about life in general. Intimate because it’s very rare that you’ll find the two of us talking about something that really matters, we’re most of the time just goofing around and making a fool out of ourselves. That day though we had a little debate about what success really means and concluded one thing: Success is different for every person.
Most of the time though, people define success as what society has instilled in our minds of what it is. Probably a big house in the suburbs, a sports car or a private jet, an army of assistants and associates all working FOR you or maybe a family. Oftentimes, people live their neighbor’s lives though and forget about all that he/she has and would want more just because someone else has it. Well here’s my point of view, the grass will always be greener on the other side of the fence so the only thing that you can really do now is just tend your garden at your level best because the person living on the other side of the fence is probably envious of your grass too.
When I was a kid all I ever really wanted when I grow up was any job that would entail me to wear a corporate suit with high-heeled shoes and designer handbags, my hair tied up in a bun and a very classy eyeglasses to finish off the entire outfit. That picture right there is a successful woman for me when I was a kid. Well, I AM that now and I don’t consider myself succesful just because of those things. I realized that my feet will kill me if I wear high-heeled shoes the whole day, so I wear flat ones on the way to work and just change it when I arrive at the office. I also realized that I could care less about the designer handbags and I’m now walking around with a ninety five dirhams bag I bought from ALDO which has led a lot of people into thinking that it was a thousand bucks-worth of bag with a designer label. My hair is always tied up in a bun yes but the eyeglasses, which I really should be wearing because my eyesight is failing me more and more each day, gives me a bad case of vertigo so I don’t wear one.
Am I happy with my 9 to 6 job? Not really.
Am I getting a good salary that’s why I’m sticking with it? No, not at all! You should see how pathetic my bank account is.
So? I must be a complete failure then? Hell no!
I consider myself successful and here’s why: I get to travel the world with the job that I have and that’s my lifelong dream and I’m actually doing it, right now! I have seen numerous places that I never really thought I would ever lay my eyes on unless I’m earning a 5-digit salary or I’m the boss of a multinational company. I have a family who supports me and loves me dearly and I am extremely confident that whatever happens to me in the long run, whether or not I’ve created a big name for myself in the industry that I am currently in – they will be there for me and will never ever leave me out in the cold. I have the nicest boyfriend in the world who’s been my safety net for the past 2 and a half years now here in Dubai and I consider myself extremely lucky for having him. I do realize that I am getting more than what I deserve in life but I wouldn’t say that my life has been easy. Nope, I’ve encountered a lot of bumps in the road, a lot of hiccups and probably I am having one now but seriously – I have a lot of other things to be thankful for.
Maybe you’re successful already but you don’t really know it because you’re chasing the wrong definition of success? Or maybe the success that you’re currently going for has got nothing to do with what will make you happy? Maybe we just have to sit back for a minute and think of something which will really make you happy and just go for it. It’s a cliche I know but take it from someone who’s probably as poor as a mouse and considers herself successful just because all she really needs in life is her family, friends, the boyfriend and the chance to explore the world – and that my dear friends, is me. 🙂